Human star Kirti Kulhari says society’s idea that women are incomplete without shaadi bacche is sh **
Kirti Kulhari will soon be seen in the Disney + medical thriller Hotstar Human. The series explores the murky world of human medical trials. Kirti stars as Dr Shreya Sabharwal, who is one of the youngest cardiac surgeons in the country. In an exclusive conversation with IndiaToday.in, Kirti Kulhari spoke about her upcoming show, opened up about mental health issues and why she thinks marriage is overrated.
Excerpts from the conversation:
Tell us about your character Dr Shreya Sabharwal in Human?
Born and bought in Bhopal, Shreya comes from a lower middle class family. She was someone who decided very early on that she wanted to become a doctor because she was inspired by her father, who is a composer. He’s someone who is so sorted, at the top of their game professionally, but also someone who is not so sorted personally. She’s someone who has flaws, has her fears and insecurities, and she carries a lot of baggage. And that’s what makes her very unpredictable. She is very complex, complicated and very human. “
How much of a character is Shreya to you?
I identify with every character I play. It’s something that I learned because I don’t judge my characters and I don’t limit myself to the idea that yeh kitni meri jaise hai. What I’m trying to look for is the character in me, the traits. I will find Shreya within me and try to access that part of me that looks like or imitates Shreya or imitates the characters that I play on screen. This is my process.
How did it go with Shefali Shah?
She is a lovely actress and I was very happy to work alongside her and share the space with her. She is a complete actress, her homework is up to par, her acting is up to it. So it’s very easy to get along, it’s very easy to do your thing when the actors are doing their job, you’re just there to make the scene better. He’s someone I’ve always admired in my life.
From Shaitaan to Human, how was your acting career?
Of course, it took a long time. It doesn’t seem like long and it hasn’t been easy. I had to fight for myself and defend myself every moment, but I think there is nothing new about this. It has been an internal battle and an external battle – and all I can say is that I look at my life with a lot of gratitude, compassion and wisdom. It’s like you have to go through things to get to where you are today.
You mentioned gratitude, and that was also the idea behind your recent tattoo. Tell us about it
This is my 6th or 7th tattoo. It means gratitude for, of course, life in general and when I say life, life is made up of every day, every moment, every person you meet and all kinds of things you do. When I look back on life, there is only gratitude. So gratitude for everything that life has put me through – good, bad and ugly – for being here today. I really count my blessings.
You recently bought your first Royal Enfield. How did your date with the bike start?
I started riding very early in my life, like when I was 17, but I’ve always imagined bikes to be synonymous with boys. I am a great 4 wheeler. I have driven a scooter, but bikes are something I have never tried. And since last year, I had a very strong feeling that I wanted to take a cycling trip to Ladakh. I have been to Ladakh several times over the past three years and have motion sickness. I think that a bicycle is also a way of not feeling this motion sickness. I was like the main kisi ke pichhe kyun baithungi, why can’t I ride a bike? I think it all started from there. Here I am planning a cycling trip to Ladakh in June.
You also recently spoke about your mental health. Were you skeptical about this?
I do not think so. There are some things that I’m not comfortable talking about publicly, but this wasn’t one of them. I think it’s something I’m very comfortable with. Like, yeah, it happened to me. I have an idea of what people with mental disorders go through. When you experience something on your own, your empathy and understanding of others who are going through it increases. I am very grateful even for this experience because this experience literally took me on a path of self-discovery, of self-healing. This is something to talk about for sure.
After your separation from your husband, you said that marriage is an overrated concept. Why do you feel this way?
Yes, I really believe it. If marriage works for you that’s fine, but if it doesn’t work for you or you don’t want it, I think life isn’t incomplete because you’re not married. I think that’s the strong conditioning that society has for girls, that’s the conditioning that I was talking about. After going through marriage, I realized that I didn’t have to spend my whole life behind the idea that marriage is the ultimate goal because it doesn’t. It’s good to be anything for as long as you want. And the same is having children too. When you are married, families put a lot of pressure. Again, this is their idea ki agar bacche nahi hai toh ek aurat complete nahi hui hai and all that sh ** if not aapki marzi hai aap shaadi karo, mat karo, separated ho jaao, divorce karo. I totally believe in individual choice and I believe YOU ARE COMPLETE with or without these ideas and conditionings attached to you.
Following Disney + Hotstar’s Human, Kirti Kulhari will be seen in 4 More Shots Please 3. The actress also has an interesting announcement in the works, which she is eagerly awaiting. The actress also has some feature films in her chat. It will surely be an exciting year for the actress.
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